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Twenty Octobers

Twenty Octobers ago I said, “I do.”

Like a wind-chased leaf, memories of that overcast autumn day in 1992 skip farther away. Hearts, of course, remember, but images are now puzzle-shaped shadows—timid fragments of scenes and feelings. A puzzle that’s grown to include many more pieces than when we began.

Despite the bustling wedding story taking place that morning, a peaceful calm guarded the air. Trickling water whispered in the fountain, butterflies danced among flowers, sweet autumn air lingered—as if all of nature were guests at our wedding.

Yesteryear and her reflections…she knows how to make herself at home in the corners of a mind.

Oh, those kids in those memories; that twenty-something bride and groom, too naive to know time would be so relentless. Young enough to think only “old” people were married twenty years. Hmmm.

Well, we certainly aren’t old, but we are older. And usually wiser. I would have thought, by this time, we’d be in a quieter, slower-paced season. Not so. These boys and their schedules keep us busier than ever. But blessed. So blessed.

“Unless the LORD builds the house, its builders labor in vain.” God’s had this verse on my heart for several months now, and when I consider it in the context of marriage…it rings altogether true.

Like any marriage, there’ve been times we’ve labored in vain trying to build this house without the authority to do so. Mercifully, there’ve also been times when we’ve deferred to God and He has blessed.October

We have a fun little first-date tradition – our annual Labor Day “Date-a-versary.” This year was our 25th year of miniature golf on Labor Day. Twenty-five?

So impatient are the hands of time—swiftly spinning along, ever so slyly trapping today into yesterday.

Back in 1988, we never knew our random choice to play Putt-Putt would become a treasured family tradition. God being a God of traditions, I like to think He smiles at this charming little custom of ours.

Twenty-five years of date-a-versaries. Twenty years of marriage. Three children who hung the moon. Lots of laughs and tears, joys and heartaches—all while living under an inexplicable favor of God, blessed beyond measure.

There’ve been lean times and there’ve been times of plenty—and in both, He’s been the Source that’s sustained us.

I don’t recall what the future looked like in the mind’s eye of that young bride, but I’m certain she had no idea how fleeting 20 years would be.

May the Builder of this house continue to be so generous, and so faithful—and may we never forget—all the glory belongs to Him.

Twenty Octobers later—I still do. flower

(Originally written in 2012 for my 20th anniversary. Sharing October 2015 in celebration of 23 years of wedded grace.)

 

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  1. Sheila Kimball says

    October 26, 2015 at 10:51 am

    This is such a beautiful, heart-felt post. Congrats and many blessings today and for more than another 20 Octobers!! We had a date-aversary too! Four years ago we met on the Walkway Over the Hudson and each year we go back, recreate, eat at the same restaurant and remember. Yes, loving traditions are sweet to savor, aren’t they? ENJOY your special day. #MeCoffeeJesusMonday
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    • Brenda says

      October 26, 2015 at 1:00 pm

      Awe, a fellow date-a-versary-er. 🙂 Thanks for the well wishes…it’s been 23 Octobers now, and God’s still blessing. 🙂 Thanks for stopping in and sharing, Sheila. ((blessings))

      Reply
  2. Miranda says

    October 27, 2015 at 8:55 am

    Beautifully written! Happy anniversary!!

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    • Brenda says

      October 27, 2015 at 10:03 am

      Thanks, Miranda, and thanks for stopping by and reading. 🙂 ((blessings))

      Reply
  3. Kelsie says

    October 27, 2015 at 9:24 am

    This is OH so sweet! Thanks so much for sharing- leaves a lot for us young marrieds to look forward to 🙂
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    • Brenda says

      October 27, 2015 at 10:04 am

      Watch our Kelsie, 23 years sneaks up on you fast. 🙂 Seems like yesterday I was one of those young marrieds. 🙂 Thanks for coming by and sharing, Kelsie. ((blessings))

      Reply
  4. Crystal Storms says

    October 27, 2015 at 12:58 pm

    Congratulations on 23 years of wedded grace (love how you worded that, Brenda)! “So impatient are the hands of time—swiftly spinning along, ever so slyly trapping today into yesterday.” The years add up at an unexpected pace … turning yesterdays into memories. It sounds as if you’re making some beautiful ones. Thank you, Brenda, for sharing your heart at #IntentionalTuesday on Intentionally Pursuing. : )
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    • Brenda says

      October 27, 2015 at 8:31 pm

      Thank you, my friend. <3 ((Hug))

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  5. Lisa Appelo @TrueandFaithful.net says

    October 27, 2015 at 9:34 pm

    Wow, I love these words — “May the Builder of this house continue to be so generous, and so faithful—and may we never forget—all the glory belongs to Him.” And you’re right …time is so fleeting and thinking about 20 Octobers puts it in perspective. Happy Anniversary. 🙂
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    • Brenda says

      October 28, 2015 at 8:50 am

      Thank you, Lisa. 🙂 ((hug))

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  6. Linda Stoll says

    October 28, 2015 at 8:19 am

    Brenda … and may there be many more milestones of love to celebrate together …

    Blessings!
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    • Brenda says

      October 28, 2015 at 8:51 am

      Thank you for the sweet sentiments, Linda. Many more, indeed. 🙂 ((hug))

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  7. Ana (@ANAWINSblog) says

    October 28, 2015 at 8:23 am

    Sweet post, happy anniversary! This jumped out at me, ” there’ve been times we’ve labored in vain trying to build this house without the authority to do so.” Such truth!! Marriage and depending on God to lead us through it is so much better when we are striving to control everything. Letting God lead is such a beautiful thing.
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    • Brenda says

      October 28, 2015 at 8:52 am

      Thanks for stopping by and sharing your sweet encouragement, Ana. 🙂 ((Hug))

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  8. Bev Duncan @ Walking Well With God says

    October 28, 2015 at 9:39 am

    Happy Anniversary! So true, that unless Jesus is the foundation of our marriage, we build in vain! Enjoyed your story of celebrating your first date…may you have many more celebrations to come!
    Blessings,
    Bev
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    • Brenda says

      October 28, 2015 at 3:03 pm

      Thank you, Bev. 🙂 ((Hug))

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  9. Rebekah Neal says

    October 29, 2015 at 12:03 am

    This is a beautiful testimony to God’s grace and faithfulness in your marriage. Happy anniversary!

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    • Brenda says

      October 29, 2015 at 8:10 am

      Thank you, Rebekah…and thanks for stopping by and sharing this morning. ((blessings))

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  10. Lyli @3dlessons4life.com says

    October 29, 2015 at 4:07 pm

    Happy Anniversary, Brenda. Loved this 🙂

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    • Brenda says

      October 30, 2015 at 8:48 am

      Thank you, sweet friend. ((Hug))

      Reply
  11. Karen says

    October 30, 2015 at 9:25 am

    Happy Anniversary! We just celebrated “25 Octobers.” Some years we were faithful to let God build the house, others not so much. But being committed to God and to each other helped us enjoy the highs and weather the lows. blessings to you!
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    • Brenda says

      October 30, 2015 at 10:03 am

      Happy 25th October to you, Karen. 🙂 You got married two years before I did. Hope this year is a great year for y’all. ((blessings))

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  12. Tai East says

    October 30, 2015 at 9:55 am

    What a beautiful and heart-felt post, Brenda! Your words warmed my heart and made me smile. Thanks so much for sharing! Happy anniversary, Dear Heart! May GOD bless you with many more! *HUGS* 🙂

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    • Brenda says

      October 30, 2015 at 10:05 am

      You’re so sweet, Tia. Thank you for your sweet sentiments. <3 ((Hug))

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      • Tai East says

        October 30, 2015 at 10:30 am

        You’re most welcome, Love! 🙂

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  13. Karen Del Tatto says

    October 30, 2015 at 10:32 am

    Brenda, What a beautiful and glorifying to God testimony you have shared about your married life. You are leaving such a Christ-centered legacy for your children.

    Thank you for sharing your blessings with all of us. 🙂

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    • Brenda says

      October 30, 2015 at 11:44 am

      That’s sweet, Karen–thank you. 🙂

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  14. Betsy de Cruz says

    October 30, 2015 at 5:37 pm

    Brenda, this is absolutely beautiful! My husband and I just celebrated 20, so I can relate. I have two children who hung the moon. One just left for college. It’s amazing how fast the years went! I’m mostly grateful, and I can see you have a lot to be grateful for too. 🙂
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    • Brenda says

      November 1, 2015 at 11:38 am

      Happy 20th to y’all, Betsy. 🙂 Many, many more. ((Hug))

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  15. Joanne Viola says

    October 31, 2015 at 9:07 am

    Happy Anniversary! Each one is special in itself & reason to celebrate! Blessings!
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    • Brenda says

      November 1, 2015 at 11:39 am

      Thank you, Joanne. ((blessings))

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  16. Brenda says

    November 1, 2015 at 11:46 am

    Thank you, Joanne. ((blessings))

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